Habib Abd al-Qadir al-Saqqaf and The Car Door

He sat in a car one day, and a student closed the door for Habib due to his love for him. Habib rode for a while until they were out of sight and suddenly told the driver to stop the car and open the door.

The driver saw tears coming down his eyes, his face was filled with pain, and he was sweating intensely. He rushed to the door and saw Habib’s fingers stuck in the door and they were filled with blood.

The driver said, ‘Sayyidi, why didn’t you tell us!’ He replied, ‘I didn’t want to upset the student because he harmed me. Who is ‘Abd al-Qadir to break the heart of someone from the Ummah of Sayyiduna Muhammad ﷺ?’

[I’ve heard two similar, but slightly different, variations of this story from two different people.]

Imam al-Haddad on Love and Fellowship

Imam Abdullah al-Haddad said:

Brotherhood [and Sisterhood] for Allah’s sake is like a tree. It is irrigated with the water of mutual visiting and the fruit it bears is working together for the sake of goodness and taqwa. If it is not watered it will wither and if it does not bear any fruit it will be cut down.


Imam al-Ghazali on Fellowship

Imam al-Ghazali said in “The Revival of Religious Sciences” in the beginning of the section on Fellowship, Brotherhood, and Sisterhood:

“Know that fellowship is the fruit of good character and separation is the fruit of bad character. Good character necessitates mutual love, camaraderie, and getting along. Bad character brings about hatred, envy, and treachery.”

The Proof of Islam starts this section with this simple, yet profound quote. A quote that gives the recipe for bringing people together and building community: have good character and treat one another properly. That’s the starting point.